for parents only

• Shaunti Feldhahn is known for unlocking the mysteries of relationships for men and women. Now she turns to a parent’s relationship with a child, particularly a child of the opposite sex. Drawing on the results of a nationwide survey of kids and teenagers, she explores questions such as:
  
  What do moms need to understand about the “tough and tender” boy who values respect over love?
  
  What do dads need to understand about their daughter’s need for affirmation?
  
  What are the six biggest pet peeves teens have about their parents?
  
  Understanding the answers to these and other important questions can help parents make the holidays a time of celebration and unity, not strife and friction.
  
  For Parents Only offers a unique look into a child’s mind and frees readers to communicate in healthier ways as they discover that understanding their kids may not be as complicated as they think.
  

Shaunti Feldhahn is the author of For Women Only and numerous other books, with sales totaling nearly one million copies. A nationally syndicated newspaper columnist and public speaker, Feldhahn earned her master’s degree at Harvard University. She and her husband, Jeff, have two young children.


Lisa A. Rice is the associate editor of Christian Living magazine, the mother of two teenage girls, and a screenwriter and producer.

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Trish's Take

I'm not one who usually recommends parenting books. There are so many reasons why I don't recommend parenting books that I won't even go into them now ~ it would take me days to list them all.

For Parents Only has received glowing reviews and recommendations by well-known "experts" such as Les & Leslie Parrott, Dennis Raney, Lisa Welchel, and Jim Daly (the president of Focus on the Family). Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice, the authors of For Parents Only, did a LOT of one-on-one research, going straight to the source ~ teenagers themselves. Their questions to teens, and their interpretations of the teens' answers to those questions are interesting.

The authors offer practical advice for communicating with your teen effectively, as well as insight into how teens these days think. They interviewed and surveyed over 1,000 teenagers while putting together the information they share ~ the efforts and research they put into this book are monumental and laudable.

The only thing about this book that I have an issue with is the noticable lack of biblical, foundational Scriptural support for the advice that is given. I can't say that I found any of their methods unbiblical ~ but this book is written from the point of view of psychology, "the study of man," rather than a biblical stand point of the study of God and what He tells us in His Word.

While I won't say you shouldn't read this book, I will advise you to read it with caution. Take into account the rare mention of God, His Word, and Scriptural support. If you're having a very difficult time communicating with your teen, For Parents Only may very well give you a new understanding of how your teen thinks. It may also help you with your listening skills. You may even have an "Ah-ha!" moment or two while reading this book. Lots and lots of teens were interviewed, and they were asked very indepth questions. What may surprise you is the openness, honesty, and truthfulness of the teens when answering some very probing questions. I do believe that is all well and good. There's nothing wrong with trying to understand where your kid is coming from. The only caution I would give you is that while you may learn some great skills and insights from this book, you need to make sure you compare what is written here to what is written in the Word of God. He is our source of all things ~ even the ability to understand or communicate well with our teenagers!

Post Script: Thank you to Liz Johnson and Multnomah Books for giving me the opportunity to read and review For Parents Only.

I have 2 brand new copies of For Parents Only to give away. Thank you again to Liz Johnson and Multnomah Books for providing the books for this giveaway, as well as the envelopes and postage to send the books to their new owners!

If you would like a free copy of For Parents Only, simply send me an email. On Tuesday, December 4, I will draw from a hat the names of 2 winners from the emails I receive between now and then.